Podcast
where we sit down with our host favor
and today we're going to talk about something every soul eventually confront and
that is making peace with people now let's just get right into it see life it
can be very messy you know people hurt us hurt people sometimes it's intentional
sometimes you know we just want to get our leg back want to you know be vengeful
you know most times it's
not but the residue remains you know you will always be there the disappointment
the guilt and oh my god the silence and yeah we know we feel that peace is
essential you know some of us always do want to reach out
actually make this peace you know how do we actually reach out to people how do
we make sure that we are at peace with ourselves with others especially when the
wounds are deep like what's in that person do you pain you well well how do you
actually do it or even when
the person is not even sorry so today we're going to break it down before you
even start to make peace you have to recognize what's carrying that conflict
will actually do to you or resolve tension hello
fine
the reason I
decided to use the courier service to deliver my reports was because I didn't
want to have this conversation Charles you know
that don't you
Charles I really don't need you to repeat the things I already know
have defective long blah blah blah blah what
I don't want to know or hear is someone telling me I can make most
out of the time I have left
or that things will get better
don't don't don't do that don't say the word
sorry
don't say sorry child
for everything thank you for being a great friend thank you
carrying a heavy bag
every day you don't notice it at first but over time it affects your posture
your pace even your perspective so there are a couple of questions you need to
ask yourselves what conflicts am I carrying who comes to mind when I hear the
word unforgiving like when they ask you is there anybody you're not that peace
with is anybody you've not forgiving who comes to your mind who is that person
that is like I anytime you remember you're like being honest about it is
actually the first thing that people
get wrong making peace doesn't always require a sit down you know it's not
always you and the person will talk one -on -one see what thing you do me see
what thing I do it doesn't always require that sometimes you know sometimes it's
not safe and sometimes it's not even possible that person might have blocked you
might have you know just done whatever they want to do relocated and having that
conversation with them sometimes it's not possible so it actually begins inside
you it's a quiet decision to no longer let that bitterness shape your thoughts
or decisions you know just no carry that in for my liking it's releasing that
grip of resentment not because they deserve it but
than expecting another person to die so sometimes forgiveness is one way and you
know that's fine just forgive them in your mind and just move on
hello who's on the line kk it's
me come so
cause trouble yes the same one how
you dinner candy been
around oh my sister just trying to get
back this one you picked by your skull what's going on
i'm happy for you guys
oh girl please
that was a long time ago by your totally deserves someone as amazing as you
where is he is he close by oh yes yeah
i say you don't marry has
it been now four years five five five years
wow i've been great um i'm sorry i haven't reached out all this time
oh come on it's fine
congratulations are in order i suppose
kinder is a good woman bio
i want to talk to you that's why i called
yes everything is great bio
i've been thinking about
how i treated you and how i treated our relationship back then
i wasn't the best girlfriend i
did hurt you a lot i guess what i'm trying to say
is that sorry you're a great guy and
you didn't deserve
any of that i
just wanted to get that over my chest thank you of
course that
would be awesome
all right let me let you go now please extend my regards to candy
especially
maybe if the person is if it's a relationship that's in your life probably like
a co -worker a husband a spouse a friend a sibling you know or if you feel the
notch to just clear the air they don't have to be a relationship in your life
but you just want to clear the air you take that step but you have to win
because sometimes you're in but
kenny oh
good afternoon ma it's kamso
ekene's friend ma is there a chance i could
talk to ekene sorry
ma but i don't understand
sorry
ma i had no idea sorry
so
much for talking to me
thank you and yes ekene would have loved that
it really happened what happened to ekene it was involved
in a car by a drunk driver who took the wrong know
what to say i'm so sorry it's okay please accept my condolences and extend it to
your mom for me please thank you we really appreciate that you know it's really
nice hearing from i was actually
calling to talk to him because we didn't have the best of endings i
was calling to apologize for my behavior about you a lot he did
all about how he couldn't tolerate your attitude the next minute he was talking
about how he was still in love with you and wanted to get you back in fact he
had plans to travel to inugu to find you well that was four months ago a month
before the accident
i was really nasty to your brother
and i hate that i can't tell him how sorry i am right now it's
time you forgive yourself too goodness see how grown you've become you
sound really mature brother yes thank you so
much thank you for speaking with me i really do appreciate this
it's fine thank you for reaching out you take care you too
take care bye
hello and it's
me
kamso from bio class you
can't talk with that one i don't understand unless you're expecting me to be
dead by
now okay
i'm just day i just day living
each day as it comes how about you now are you there are you okay who
be this who be this who they talk and what have you done with ernest because
ernest what i know
like trouble kamo cause trouble kamo cause trouble now you be the trouble now
you introduce me to trouble guy
what's it happened since when what changed
do you want i remember remember
shaibu wait wait guy
i bet no time he said shaibu don't buy one
wall of four six in a strong past
that i hear now
i'm
i'm really tired right now i
don't know how to feel about all of this
i am i'm sorry but i have to go
i'm sorry