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Podcast

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where we sit down with our host favor

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and today we're going to talk about something every soul eventually confront and

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that is making peace with people now let's just get right into it see life it

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can be very messy you know people hurt us hurt people sometimes it's intentional

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sometimes you know we just want to get our leg back want to you know be vengeful

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you know most times it's

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not but the residue remains you know you will always be there the disappointment

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the guilt and oh my god the silence and yeah we know we feel that peace is

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essential you know some of us always do want to reach out

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actually make this peace you know how do we actually reach out to people how do

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we make sure that we are at peace with ourselves with others especially when the

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wounds are deep like what's in that person do you pain you well well how do you

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actually do it or even when

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the person is not even sorry so today we're going to break it down before you

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even start to make peace you have to recognize what's carrying that conflict

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will actually do to you or resolve tension hello

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fine

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the reason I

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decided to use the courier service to deliver my reports was because I didn't

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want to have this conversation Charles you know

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that don't you

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Charles I really don't need you to repeat the things I already know

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have defective long blah blah blah blah what

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I don't want to know or hear is someone telling me I can make most

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out of the time I have left

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or that things will get better

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don't don't don't do that don't say the word

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sorry

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don't say sorry child

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for everything thank you for being a great friend thank you

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carrying a heavy bag

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every day you don't notice it at first but over time it affects your posture

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your pace even your perspective so there are a couple of questions you need to

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ask yourselves what conflicts am I carrying who comes to mind when I hear the

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word unforgiving like when they ask you is there anybody you're not that peace

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with is anybody you've not forgiving who comes to your mind who is that person

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that is like I anytime you remember you're like being honest about it is

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actually the first thing that people

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get wrong making peace doesn't always require a sit down you know it's not

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always you and the person will talk one -on -one see what thing you do me see

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what thing I do it doesn't always require that sometimes you know sometimes it's

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not safe and sometimes it's not even possible that person might have blocked you

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might have you know just done whatever they want to do relocated and having that

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conversation with them sometimes it's not possible so it actually begins inside

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you it's a quiet decision to no longer let that bitterness shape your thoughts

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or decisions you know just no carry that in for my liking it's releasing that

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grip of resentment not because they deserve it but

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than expecting another person to die so sometimes forgiveness is one way and you

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know that's fine just forgive them in your mind and just move on

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hello who's on the line kk it's

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me come so

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cause trouble yes the same one how

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you dinner candy been

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around oh my sister just trying to get

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back this one you picked by your skull what's going on

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i'm happy for you guys

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oh girl please

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that was a long time ago by your totally deserves someone as amazing as you

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where is he is he close by oh yes yeah

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i say you don't marry has

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it been now four years five five five years

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wow i've been great um i'm sorry i haven't reached out all this time

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oh come on it's fine

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congratulations are in order i suppose

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kinder is a good woman bio

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i want to talk to you that's why i called

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yes everything is great bio

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i've been thinking about

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how i treated you and how i treated our relationship back then

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i wasn't the best girlfriend i

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did hurt you a lot i guess what i'm trying to say

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is that sorry you're a great guy and

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you didn't deserve

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any of that i

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just wanted to get that over my chest thank you of

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course that

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would be awesome

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all right let me let you go now please extend my regards to candy

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especially

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maybe if the person is if it's a relationship that's in your life probably like

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a co -worker a husband a spouse a friend a sibling you know or if you feel the

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notch to just clear the air they don't have to be a relationship in your life

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but you just want to clear the air you take that step but you have to win

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because sometimes you're in but

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kenny oh

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good afternoon ma it's kamso

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ekene's friend ma is there a chance i could

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talk to ekene sorry

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ma but i don't understand

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sorry

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ma i had no idea sorry

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so

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much for talking to me

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thank you and yes ekene would have loved that

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it really happened what happened to ekene it was involved

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in a car by a drunk driver who took the wrong know

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what to say i'm so sorry it's okay please accept my condolences and extend it to

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your mom for me please thank you we really appreciate that you know it's really

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nice hearing from i was actually

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calling to talk to him because we didn't have the best of endings i

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was calling to apologize for my behavior about you a lot he did

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all about how he couldn't tolerate your attitude the next minute he was talking

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about how he was still in love with you and wanted to get you back in fact he

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had plans to travel to inugu to find you well that was four months ago a month

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before the accident

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i was really nasty to your brother

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and i hate that i can't tell him how sorry i am right now it's

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time you forgive yourself too goodness see how grown you've become you

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sound really mature brother yes thank you so

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much thank you for speaking with me i really do appreciate this

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it's fine thank you for reaching out you take care you too

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take care bye

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hello and it's

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me

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kamso from bio class you

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can't talk with that one i don't understand unless you're expecting me to be

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dead by

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now okay

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i'm just day i just day living

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each day as it comes how about you now are you there are you okay who

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be this who be this who they talk and what have you done with ernest because

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ernest what i know

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like trouble kamo cause trouble kamo cause trouble now you be the trouble now

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you introduce me to trouble guy

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what's it happened since when what changed

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do you want i remember remember

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shaibu wait wait guy

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i bet no time he said shaibu don't buy one

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wall of four six in a strong past

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that i hear now

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i'm

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i'm really tired right now i

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don't know how to feel about all of this

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i am i'm sorry but i have to go

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i'm sorry